Isn’t it interesting how quickly we can get upset? We can quickly be moved to fear, worry, depression, anxiety, hatred, jealousy, etc. And then what happens? We may go straight into reactive mode. We may engage in an endless cycle of attack/counter-attack, with ourselves or with others.
The thing is, we’re upset because we see something that isn’t even there.
Try this on for size: I’m worried about ___________ because ____________. Fill in the blanks, and you may notice that the words that come after because are based in FEAR. Interesting, but true.
In A Course in Miracles we learn that FEAR is an illusion; only LOVE is real. Yet most of us go about our day to day lives having lots of upsets – lots of negative thinking, feeling, and reacting. If we never awaken to the fact that there is a different way to live and have our being expressed from LOVE, we will certainly live with a lot of stress and distress. Our lives may become unmanageable, or they may at the very least not generate a felt-sense of contentment, ease and grace.
Alan Cohen has stated that WORRYING is “suffering in advance”. I love that quote. Why on earth would we choose to worry, then?
In A Course in Miracles it is also stated that there is no such thing as a “small upset”. ALL upsets are equally disturbing to our peace of mind. So what do we do about our “upsets”?
When we turn within and realize that we are spiritual beings just happening to be having a human experience, the upsets begin to be viewed as ridiculous. As humans, and we all did take on human form when we came into this world, we tend to turn quickly to our EGO self, or our FALSE self. That’s the part of us that is 100% based in FEAR. Our EGO is really great at creating “illusions”, ways of thinking and being that are meaningless. Our spiritual essence still remains and we can access it any time. This is why spiritual solutions work: We remember who we REALLY are. We are able to freely express, work, play, and engage in loving relationships, without fear. We let go of judgment; we move into acceptance instead.
The solution to ALL of our upsets is to pause and remember that we are beings of LOVE. Instead of reacting (based in FEAR) we can start RESPONDING – from a place of LOVE. Attack begets counter-attack, but when we respond to ourselves or to someone else from a loving place the entire dynamic shifts.